It’s easy to give in to the things you see.
You see others having fun and feel left out because you’re not involved. You hear about a party or get-together and drop everything to join in and be a part of it.
You see it and want it.
It’s easy to give into your feelings too.
You feel tired or embarrassed by your lack of progress, so you stop trying. You feel guilty or obligated, so you put other people’s goals ahead of your own.
But what are you not seeing?
The key to crushing it in life is to expand your awareness.
Start looking for gaps in your knowledge. Start looking for absences.
You might feel unsure of yourself and your goals right now in this moment, but you’ve felt these feelings before and know they’re only temporary.
There’s something you’re not seeing.
You see pictures of people having fun and relaxing somewhere tropical online and you think that you should be doing what they’re doing.
But you know that you’re just reacting to what you see.
You’re just experiencing a useless reflex.
What you’re not seeing is how hard those people worked to get to where they are. You’re not seeing the escape plan they created and successfully executed.
Or you’re not seeing how much money their mommies and daddies are giving them, or how many bills they’re going to have piled up afterwards.
Either way, you should stop focusing just on what you see and get back to work.
5 Keys To Crushing It
1. Pour it on at the end, don’t pull back.
When you get close to a victory in life, your first instinct is to pull back.
This is normal. You’ve worked hard and your mind is ready for a break. You see the finish line and every fiber in your body is telling you to let up.
Don’t go by what you see.
Yes, you are going to finish. But how are you going to finish?
Most of life’s biggest disappointments come right before a big victory. Someone pulls back. An opening is uncovered. Someone or something else fills the void.
The opportunity is lost.
Stop relaxing near the finish line. Instead, pour it on. Increase your intensity. Control everything.
You might feel like the victory is yours whether you let up or not, but there are an uncountable number of things you’re not seeing.
Competitors hiding in the weeds.
Obstacles waiting to strike. Lady luck looking for a reason to change her mind.
Don’t give them an inch. Follow through with 100% effort to the very end.
2. Reinforce success, not doubts.
The mind forgets success very easily. But it loves to remember losses.
According to Dr. Rick Hanson, who is a neuropsychologist and Senior Fellow at UC Berkeley, positive information has to be held in your awareness for a dozen or more seconds before being transferred to your longterm memory banks.
Negative information is transferred instantly
Your mind is very good at replaying your losses. It will fill your head with pictures of failures over and over again if you allow it.
Don’t let these doubts creep in. Keep your negativity bias and impostor syndrome in check.
Watch over your thoughts.
When past failures or potential future failures start playing in your head, change the channel.
Stop asking yourself, “What if I fail?” Instead, ask yourself, “When have I succeeded at something similar in the past?”
3. Drop negative people, don’t drag them along.
Negative people have a way of sneaking into your life. They’re like leeches.
If you’re not careful, you’ll wake up one day surrounded by gossips, haters, and drama queens. All of them sucking the life out of you.
Identifying these people is easy.
Getting rid of them, on the other hand, can be very difficult.
Most people drag a net of negative friends around with them everywhere they go for years.
Cut them loose.
Don’t keep negative friends in your life just because they’re the closest people to you.
Stop looking at the handful of people whose approval you will never have and start looking at the 7 billion other people on the planet who might like you just the way you are.
4. Blame yourself, not others.
You can’t see yourself. Not really.
You can pass by a mirror every now and then or ask for someone else’s viewpoint, but you can never really see yourself from the outside.
You can see other people though.
Lots of other people. You can see all the people and things that come against you.
Which makes it really easy to blame them for your problems. All of your problems. But…
They’re not to blame. You are.
You’re responsible for all of your successes and failures. You’re responsible for the good and bad in your life.
Of course, you’re not responsible for every event in your past. But you are responsible for how you handle it.
You are accountable for the aftermath.
Who you are right now is your fault. Start seeing yourself as the responsible party.
This is the most empowering way to live.
5. Change your approach, don’t repeat it.
The reason people get stuck in a rut is because they repeat themselves blindly.
They blow it in life because they keep trying the same stale strategies over and over again.
What if you did the opposite?
The only way to get unstuck in life is to do something different.
You have to break your current pattern.
But this is hard.
People get comfortable. They get lazy.
If you really want to change, do something big, not small.
Small changes can’t build momentum.
The gravity of the status quo is too intense.
Big changes on the other hand, obliterate patterns.
They eliminate the pull of normal. Stop looking to the strategies you’ve always used—the ones that are easy to see—to change your life.
You need new strategies.
Wild strategies.
Opposite and completely-unlike-you strategies.
Stop looking at the seen.
Start looking for the unseen.
Start creating a positive change in your life right now.
“If you set your goals ridiculously high and it’s a failure, you will fail above everyone else’s success.”
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