Let Meditation Break The Vicious Cycle of Worry. Now.

Please know this... it makes no sense to worry about the things we have no control over because if we have no control over something, why worry about it. And it makes no sense to worry about the things we do have control over because if we do have control over something, why worry about it. So tell me, what's there to worry about? There goes everything that is possible to worry about. Either you have control or you don't, and worry is just a waste of your precious, present moments.

Still worried ?

Don't get caught on the "Regret" Train. See you in a few months..

And a big THANK YOU to Mr. John Chancellor for this post. 

I would like for you to think for a few moments about the worst thing that has or might happen in your life. Now, depending on where you are in life, that might vary a lot. You might think that losing a promotion, breaking up with your significant other, losing your job or even the death of a very special person in your life would be the worst thing that could possibly happen to you.

But let's fast forward a bit, to a time none of us really wants to think about. Although we all know that death is a natural part of the cycle of life, we all like to put off thoughts of death. But think about when you are near the end. That is when you will get a very clear perspective on the worst possible thing that could happen in your life.

I do not pretend to be a fortune teller, but I do believe I can tell you what will be the worst thing that can happen. When you are near the end, unless you are quite different from the majority of people, you will look back on your life with some regret. And unfortunately, it will be too late. There will be nothing you can do about it.

What will you regret? For some, it will be that you did not spend enough time with your loved ones. For some, it will be the opportunities you let slip by: opportunities to make new friends, to help others, to make a difference in life. It may have been the new business you did not start or the places you did not go. I cannot tell you specifically what you will regret, but I can tell you that will be the most gut wrenching thing you will face.

If this is so important, then why do we let opportunities slip away? Well, as the current cliché goes, life gets in the way. We get caught up in the urgent activities that we must do each day and fail to give enough time and attention to what is important in life. We become a slave to the urgent.

And of course, the other reason is fear. We fear stepping out of our comfort zone. We fear that if we take a chance, if we try something new and different, if we decide to really make a difference in the world, we will fail. The truth is just the opposite; we fail when we don't even try.

Often, we do not have to face that failure to try until we no longer have the opportunity to try. That is where the regret comes from: knowing that we had an opportunity for our lives to be different and we did not even try. And when we are near the end, that is when regret will really haunt us.

But there is a cure. You do not need to go through life knowing at the end you will be burdened with regret. Just take the time now to decide on what is important in your life - and then set aside the time to do the important things. Decide to make a difference in life. Life is for living, exploring, growing and becoming all you can be. Life is for fully developing your unique self. There will come a day when you will no longer have the time or opportunity to do certain things. Then you will only have regret. To me, that would be the worst thing that could possibly happen in life. 

Marco here. Thank you for stopping by. Hopefully, I can make it back..

How To Heal Your Mind...

First, accept that mind is not reality. Mind is not you. Mind is...mind. Thoughts are to mind as clouds are to sky. Don't get caught believing in your thoughts any more than you would believe in a cloud. They both pass. Notice, appreciate, admire even, but don't believe them! Heal your mind by ignoring it and attending to the moment. What is right in front of you? Pay full attention to it. Minute attention. Exquisite and rapt attention. Attend with the same sense of preciousness as you would if it were the last thing on earth you will ever be aware of.

Heal Your Mind

The Life of Buddha

The Four Agreements

The Four Agreements are:

1. Be Impeccable with your Word: Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the Word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your Word in the direction of truth and love.

2. Don’t Take Anything Personally
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.

3. Don’t Make Assumptions
Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

4. Always Do Your Best
Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.

The Toltecs...

How to deal with any problem!

“Begin challenging your own assumptions. Your assumptions are your windows on the world. Scrub them off every once in awhile, or the light won’t come in.”

The Cookie Thief! By Valerie Cox

A woman was waiting at an airport one night,

With several long hours before her flight.

She hunted for a book in the airport shops.

Bought a bag of cookies and found a place to drop.

She was engrossed in her book but happened to see,

That the man sitting beside her, as bold as could be.

Grabbed a cookie or two from the bag in between,

Which she tried to ignore to avoid a scene.

So she munched the cookies and watched the clock,

As the gutsy cookie thief diminished her stock.

She was getting more irritated as the minutes ticked by,

Thinking, “If I wasn’t so nice, I would blacken his eye.”

With each cookie she took, he took one too,

When only one was left, she wondered what he would do.

With a smile on his face, and a nervous laugh,

He took the last cookie and broke it in half.

He offered her half, as he ate the other,

She snatched it from him and thought… oooh, brother.

This guy has some nerve and he’s also rude,

Why he didn’t even show any gratitude!

She had never known when she had been so galled,

And sighed with relief when her flight was called.

She gathered her belongings and headed to the gate,

Refusing to look back at the thieving ingrate.

She boarded the plane, and sank in her seat,

Then she sought her book, which was almost complete.

As she reached in her baggage, she gasped with surprise,

There was her bag of cookies, in front of her eyes.

If mine are here, she moaned in despair,

The others were his, and he tried to share.

Too late to apologize, she realized with grief,

That she was the rude one, the ingrate, the thief.

How many times in our lives,

have we absolutely known

that something was a certain way,

only to discover later that

what we believed to be true … was not?

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Remember... “We have the tendency to make assumptions about everything.  The problem with making assumptions is that we believe they are the truth.  We could swear they are real. We make assumptions about what others are doing or thinking – we take it personally – then we blame them and react by sending emotional poison with our words.  That is why whenever we make assumptions, we’re asking for problems...

ALL OF THE SADNESS AND DRAMA YOU HAVE LIVED IN YOUR LIFE WAS ROOTED IN MAKING ASSUMPTIONS AND TAKING THINGS PERSONALLY.